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By speaking from the heart I aim to connect with the individual to show that I am just like them. I too have a story and, although very challenging, I overcame and succeeded.
I then introduce the story of Jamie HUBLEY. When speaking about Jamie, I create the images in the minds of those listening to what Jamie endured during his years of bullying to the best of my ability. I share what he felt like, how he reacted and exactly what the bullies did. I speak about Jamie as though he is still with us and how he was such a positive person.
At the start of the presentation, the youth only know that I am just a guy named Tad’ who is no different than they are.
“I have been teaching for 32 years. In my long history of teaching and of listening to many, many guest speakers over the years, I can safely say that your presentation was, without a doubt, the best presentation I have ever listened to in my career in education.”
To begin the presentation, I start by introducing myself. I speak about growing up and feeling alone. I am very open when I discuss the challenges I had growing up in a broken home full of addictions, confined to the basement for many years and being bullied all through school. I speak about my dream as a child to become a Police Officer and how I persevered to achieve that dream.
By speaking from the heart I aim to connect with the individual to show that I am just like them. I too have a story and, although very challenging, I overcame and succeeded
I then introduce the story of Jamie HUBLEY. When speaking about Jamie, I create the images in the minds of those listening to what Jamie endured during his years of bullying to the best of my ability. I share what he felt like, how he reacted and exactly what the bullies did. I speak about Jamie as though he is still with us and how he was such a positive person.
I tell Jamie’s story up to his death on October 15th, 2011. The youth do not expect this outcome and are stunned when told.
I share what happened to me when I read about Jamie for the first time. I knew right then and there that I had to do what I could to help. I communicated with Jamie’s Dad (Allan) and received his permission to carry on his son’s message of acceptance and understanding.
I promised him that I would tell the world about a boy named Jamie
I tell the youth about this moment in my life and how reading about Jamie inspired me to do something immediately.
I also speak about how I am doing exactly what Jamie wanted to do. Jamie wanted to be in a room of peers allowing them the opportunity to get to know him, break stereotypes and be informed.
It is at this point that I bring up my sexuality. I have found that by this stage, a rapport has been built.
Tad, THANK YOU! Your presentation saved my Son’s life!!!!!
Sharing my sexuality shows the youth that you can be anyone you want to be, achieve your dreams and that I am no different from anyone else. Although I only speak about my sexuality for a moment, the point is very clear … that I am no different from anyone else in the audience.
I make it clear that I represent all Police, Teachers and Administrators when I say that we all want to help.
I emphasize that I am there to help if that individual feels as though they have had nowhere else to turn. I appeal to those struggling in silence to come forward (through my website, which can be done in anonymity) and I will do everything I can to arrange the help required. At the very least, I am there to listen.
I appeal to those that are watching the bullying take place to stand up and help, to be the voice of those that won’t speak up.
Lastly, I inspire the youth to make this world what they want it to be. I inspire them to be better, to help and to make a real positive change in this world. I want them to be the very best that they can be.
On average, I talk for about 65 minutes but recommend reserving 75 minutes to leave time in the end for questions.
The youth are left with my card, which includes valuable resources, along with contact information for myself. On average, 10-25% of all youth message me within 24 hours.
Important Notes:
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This is NOT a talk about being gay. Tad simply shares his sexuality to illustrate my understanding of what it is like to be unique. This is no different than colour, religion, race, mental health, physical challenges etc..
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Tad's comfortable speaking in large groups and does not require any AV equipment or materials (except a microphone). Assembly formats are easiest for schools. He's willing to speak up to 2 times per day if required.
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We encourage you to read the Facilitator Feedback section on this website to see what teachers and instructors are saying about Tad's presentation. This is like no other!
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Tad also encourages you to read the Youth Feedback section on this website to see what the youth are saying.
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Because of the content of his message, he believes the presentation is appropriate for grades 6 onward (unless you believe otherwise). Please be aware that this message is not designed for any particular class or group, it is designed to inspire everyone on the individual level.
What sets the ‘Bullying Ends Here - Lived Experience Presentation’ apart from other anti-bullying initiatives?
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Tad speaks from the heart about real experiences.
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Tad makes himself available to help at any time in the future.
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He started all of this on his own time and at his own expense.
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He has been there, felt the same emotions and knows what being ‘lonely and alienated’ feels like.
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He is a Police Officer with the ability to help in many ways.
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Most importantly, he connects with the youth. He speaks to them as individuals, makes eye contact and has only himself for the audience to focus on. No fancy slides, videos or pictures.
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He ‘paints’ a mental image of what bullying REALLY is. He does this by sharing his story and that of Jamie’s in descriptive terms (age appropriate).
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This presentation has been featured on ‘Canada AM’, CTV, CITY TV, Global Television and has been reported on in over 100 newspapers. Tad has been Internationally-recognized receiving several awards including one of Canada’s highest honours; the Order of Merit.
Lived Experience Presentations
Bullying Ends Here- Virtual Presentation -24 Hours + Live Q&A
24 Hours + Live Q&A
This is a 24 hour rental (with a live Q&A) that can only be viewed once. The video is 67 minutes. Please email info@bullyingendshere.ca to confirm Q&A availability prior to your purchase. You can also request an in-person Lived Experience presentation.
Bullying Ends Here- Virtual Presentation -Entire School
Entire School + Live Q&A
This is a 24 hour rental (with a live Q&A) that can be viewed by multiple classes. The video is 67 minutes. Please email info@bullyingendshere.ca to confirm Q&A availability prior to your purchase. You can also request an in-person Lived Experience presentation.
I have been requested to speak to schools all around the World. I will go anywhere, at any time, to spread this important message.
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Bullying Ends Here - Virtual Presentation - Personal Viewing
Personal Viewing
This 24-hour rental (with a live Q&A) can only be viewed once and is intended for personal viewing only. The video is 67 minutes.
Entire School + Live Q&A
This presentation is delivered by our President/Founder, Tad MILMINE who shares his heart-breaking, yet the resilient story, in person. Thanks to our sponsors, schools presentations are heavily subsidized at $800 per presentation. Community Groups and Keynote presentations, please inquire directly with Tad.